Are You the Trusting Kind?

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Still Together

You know the type — people who doesn’t hesitate to do that falling backwards routine, into the arms of another person without really knowing that person or even if he is still standing there.  Another how-much-do-you-trust experiment is to find a straight country road with no traffic or an open parking lot with no cars, close your eyes, and see how far you can walk with your eyes closed before you open them.  It’s harder than you might think, even when you know there aren’t any obstacles in the way.  But may be for the trusting kind of person, they just keep chugging along, no problem, eyes tight shut.

The trusting kind of person is going to be heir to a number of bad outcomes just waiting to happen.  Friends are one of those bad outcomes.  Trusting friends without reservation sooner or later is going to mean a very big comeuppance.  After the disappointment, you’ll hear the “truster” say of the “trustee” friend who betrayed, but he (or she) was my friend, which translated in the language of trust means friends don’t behave that way — but, unfortunately, they often do.

The same happens with family members.  The truster gives extra free rein in the behavior of other family members because naturally they would never do anything to harm another family member, right?  Wrong again.  So such a trusting person is likely to get burned here again, especially with money matters.  It seems that family members don’t regard a financial debt with another family member as really any debt at all — it’s all in the family, isn’t it?

I won’t even go into the area of love and affection.  We all know that’s a minefield —  actually an extremely lucrative minefield — worth mining — for divorce attorneys.  There was a famous line in a famous movie where an older and experienced man advises a recent graduate on lucrative options for his future, and he utters just one word: “Plastics.”  I might have said instead two words: “Divorce attorney.”  There’s big bucks in the misery of those who trusted in love and affection — and lost.

So, for goodness sake, what does one really get for being trusting.  It would seem that it is a house of cards, a calamity waiting to happens, a fool’s errand.  Except I like the quotation, “If there is no trust, there is no us.”  That’s the conundrum in a nutshell.  The true value of your relationships with friends, family members, and lovers only happens with deep and abiding trust.  No trust, no real relationship, and so you will be marooned on a cold and unfeeling planet, really alone, that is, feeling very alone.  But with trust, there’s the possibility of connection, genuine connection.  That’s the wisdom of those who trust, in spite of the risks and the bumps along the way.

Quotations on Trust and Trusting

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Fair Play

‘Tis fair play, I say —
So don’t worry yourself none.
Death don’t descriminate, I tell ya;
All’s welcome.
Never ya mind then,
For Father Time, he sees to it —
Keeps for all and sundry
A certain ‘pointment.
Nope, no reservations needed;
He’ll call ya when it’s time.

All Poetry — Henry Barnard

 

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“Raindrops Keep Falling on My Head”

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“Raindrops Keep Falling on My Head”

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Flatiron

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Free As A Bird

Where were you before birth?
And after death?
In the same non-existence?
You pass from one into another non-existence.
No choice, pre-planned.

One loses only the present moment in death.
One gains only the present moment in birth.
You are a captive of it,
For there is nothing else –
There is no future
And no past…
Illusions.

Let your mind roam free today.
Let it leap with associations.
Let it inspire with originality.
Let it frolic in the lush pastures of pure thought.
Let it rejoice, complete and entire unto itself.

For we are silly little things,
Trapped by a narrow existence,
Snared by time and space.
Yes, “a little soul carrying a corpse.”
Indeed, Epictetus.
But your mind, that is free —
Free as a bird.

All Poetry — Henry Barnard

 

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Just Strummin’ Along

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Intermittent Fasting

Have you ever done something and then subsequently found out it actually had a name?  It just happened to me in regard to my diet.  You see, I take advantage of an outdoor pool around midday to get in a half hour of swimming laps so that I get the 30-minute aerobic exercise that all the “experts” say keeps you healthy and spry.  But it takes me a half hour to walk there and another half hour to walk back to my digs, and I usually take another half hour dawdling around the pool, so in total it puts a pretty big dent, time wise, in the middle of my day.

It occurred to me last summer that with all this activity around noon, it would be pretty easy for me to just skip lunch.  It was a good idea since I had put on some weight and the nasty stuff was virtually impossible to be rid of any other way, so that’s what I did for the whole summer — swam laps at the outdoor pool but skipped lunch.   And damn if it didn’t work over time.  By the end of the summer, I was 16 pounds lighter and down a few notches on the old belt — not bad.

But here’s where the story takes an interesting twist.  I’m a member of a Facebook group that follows the plant-based diet espoused in Joel Fuhrman’s book Eat To Live.  So I happened to post in that group my good fortune in losing all that weight and the strategy I used by skipping lunch and even eating a very light breakfast.  One of the people who replied to the post said that it sounded to her like something called “intermittent fasting,” which was new to me.  So naturally I Googled “intermittent fasting” to find out what on earth she was talking about.

Now I don’t know about you, but I’m beginning to think that the Internet is actually — how should I put this? — god!  I mean you can ask it anything and it knows the answer, and it’s instantaneous.  Isn’t that godlike?  Sometimes when I’m typing in the question, the screen actually completes the last few words for me, thank you very much — that damn thing is reading my mind.  I mean really, who can actually do that consistently — the Net can.  I swear we haven’t created a monster in the Internet but we have replaced the Almighty.  The Net is just as smart, may be smarter.  It’s all knowing, all seeing, everything rolled up into one giant brain that never sleeps.  Humans had better watch  out; we are expendable.

Well, I digress.  When I Googled “intermittent fasting,” I wasn’t disappointed.  I could have read for the entire day.  There was an ocean of material about this dieting technique that I had never heard of — and I have read a lot on nutrition and dieting, over 100 books at least.  That’s a favorite subject of mine.   So I read may be a half-dozen Internet articles on intermittent fasting and came away, I think, with a pretty good layman’s understanding of the subject — thanks to god, the Internet.

Essentially, intermittent dieting targets the stored fat around the midsection.  That’s that inner tube everyone carries around the waist — for some it’s barely noticeable but for others it’s all you do notice.  Stored fat is kind of a legacy we have inherited from prehistoric man whose body evolved in such a way that it was efficient in storing fat so that when lean periods inevitably occurred, humans could count on their bodies to provide the necessary sustenance to make it through.

For prehistoric man, the body became efficient in storing fat for the sake of his survival.  The body uses food that is currently being digested as the immediate source of energy — not the accumulated stored fat.  As long as this digestion takes place, it will use the current food in the pipeline before it invades stored fat around the midsection.  It takes about 12 hours for a digestion cycle to complete from the moment one consumes a meal to when it is completely digested.

So for those 12 hours, the body avoids using stored fat around the midsection and instead uses the food that is being digested.  When times were flush for prehistoric man and there was ample food to eat, he would eat again well within that 12-hour window, and so the stored fat, instead of ever being used, would accumulate — until the next period of starvation when the body of our prehistoric relative, who was now not eating regularly, would need the stored fat for him to survive.

Fast forward to the present day.  Today, that 12-hour mark is the key to understanding intermittent fasting because it is only after the 12-hour digestion cycle that the body instead starts to invade stored fat around the midsection as its primary source of energy, just as it would have for prehistoric man during periods of starvation.  So, here’s the thing, any hours after 12 hours from your last meal until your next meal is pure gold for  reducing stored fat, that inner tube around your midsection.  In fact, it is only after those 12 hours have expired that stored fat is ever used by the body.

So you can see the propensity of our society to get bigger and bigger around the waist because we are constantly eating, and so the modern body has perpetual digested food coursing through it — so there is never a let up in digestion and never a time the body selects instead to use stored fat for energy instead of digested food.

In response to this dilemma, intermittent fasting takes a very unusual approach to dieting.  It is not about how much you eat, as it is about WHEN you eat.  It exploits that 12-hour milestone when active digestion has stopped.  I don’t actually have a total understanding of the science involved, but have gleaned the fact that when digestion and insulin are high, the use of stored fat by the body is low; and when digestion and insulin are low, the use of stored fat is high.  That’s the formula to remember, plus the very important 12-hour milestone.

The people who practice intermittent fasting have their own hieroglyphics.  You see things like 18:6 or 20:4 or 23:1 or OMAD (“one meal a day”).   The first three, the ones with colons, indicate with the first number the hours the person is fasting and with the second number the hours eating.  So someone who is practicing 20:4 is fasting for 20 hours and eating for 4.  Notice the real benefit from a 20:4 approach based on the above description of that pivotal 12-hour milestone when digestion stops and stored fat burning begins.  20 minus 12 equals 8 hours.  That means that person has been burning stored fat around the midsection for 8 hours — not bad, especially when compared to most Americans who eat 3 or more meals every day and really never ever get beyond the 12-hour mark, so they never burn any stored fat.

Then there is the warrior class of people who do intermittent fasting.  These are the ones who go for days on end without eating.  Frankly, that’s not for me — I like food too much.  And for someone who doesn’t eat anything for multiple days, I really don’t know where beneficial intermittent fasting ends and anorexia begins, and I don’t want to know.  But I think the majority of the people who do this type of “dieting,” start with OMAD and get their weight down to where they would like it to be (for me, that’s not skinny, but just a little overweight), and then they downshift to 18:6, which is a pretty easy regimen of just skipping breakfast and having a latish lunch — piece of cake (sorry, I had to say it).

The sad fact is that today 1 in every 3 Americans is obese.  The 12-hour mark is the reason why.  Those Americans eat again well before they ever get close to 12 hours from their last meal, so they never do burn any stored fat.  So when will it be 1 out of every 2 Americans?  Unfortunately, when it comes to excessive weight gain, evolution, which has made the body very efficient at storing fat, is not on our side.  But intermittent fasting may be the answer.

To Your Health

 

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Chrysler and Fire-escape

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